There’s one thing we’re all chasing after
At the end of the day There’s one thing we’re all chasing after. One thing that trumps money, one force that cripples power or reason, and that very closely dictates the kind of people we become.
and it’s love.
Falling in love is like coming home after the longest day of your life! Your worries are easier to handle and you feel secure and protected within the walls. The person you give your heart to just feels warm. When you’re deep in love, it’s hard not to picture the rest of your life with that other person. But how do we know for sure that it’s going to be that Cinderella story and not just another failure? Perhaps I'm a little old-fashioned, but I'd like to believe that marriage — for better or for worse — is sacred for life.
IT'S NOT ABOUT your IMAGE
we have Good days and bad days, your love understands who you are and doesn’t expect you to be anyone but yourself. in fact, In THEIR eyes you’re special by just being you, I mean YOU'RE THE ONE WE fell for. There’s no pretending. During those lazy times when all you want to do is order pizza in sweatpants, do the netflix and chill while not formulating sentences, they get it because they're right there with you. You can totally be yourself — whatever mood you’re in — and they always think you shine.
you're happy, they're happy. you're sad, they're sad. you feel good, they feel good. You feel bad, they feel bad
You know they're the one because they treat you so good in ways that you’ve never thought possible. That person encourages you to do better and to never settle. They're always talking about ideas while embracing change in life and in the relationship. They appreciate you and your existence while complimenting you. They accept responsibility for their failures while always learning. the beautiful person you marry gives selflessly, Some stages or careers are more difficult than others, but he finds ways to let you know he hasn’t forgotten about you.
when you're down they are picking you up, when they are down you are picking them up.
Although a lot of “comfort” can be found in mutually wallowing in a particular experience (such as complaining) or behaviour (such as drugs), the most valuable relationships are those in which each individual helps the other rise from hardship, as they say "for better or worse" This help can come in the form of truly listening, providing reminders, or an assortment of other ways, but no matter how it comes it always does everything it can to ensure that the other person never gets caught in an ongoing unhealthy state. Even though the action of change ultimately needs to come from the person caught in it, the most valuable relationship partners remind them of, and help them find, that power.
the best relationships are those in which you actually feel happy for them.
I believe The best relationships are those in which ego-based comparisons are cast aside and are replaced by a genuine happiness for the accomplishments of the other person. Rather than being jealous of that person, or always trying to out due one another isn't getting you anywhere! You should be happy for that person and celebrate with them. Tell them your proud of them. the best relationships are those in which you actually feel happy for them.
differences will arise in even the most naturally compatible of relationships
Many relationships are constructed off of similarities, and for obvious reasons. It would be much easier for me to find common ground, interests, and compatibility with someone who like myself loves parkour, vlogging, and urban exploring than it would for me to do the same with someone who enjoyed staying indoors, painting, and watching t.v. Despite this common foundation, differences will arise in even the most naturally compatible of relationships, and those that are worth keeping tend not to let those differences come between them, but gives room to grow with each other. A great relationship is one in which time spent by one person doing what they are passionate about is truly seen as valuable to the other person as quality time together – even if that passion is experienced with someone else.
Blast From the Past
As awesome as reliving the past can be, the best relationships tend to be those that stay within the present moment. Qoute honestly, at the end of the day.. no one really cares. Don't get me wrong, people could imagine how bad it can be to be in your situation but they have their own issues to really care about what happened thirty years ago.. Rather than forever holding past transgressions or issues against them, even if just quietly in the background of a seemingly now trouble-free connection, the choice to let the past go and be in the present allows both people to more fully enjoy everything that the other has to offer
The Only Games We should play is jenga
Particularly in the realm of romantic relationships, a lot of people love the thrill and uncertainty that comes with trying to figure the other person out. the most valuable relationships tend to be ones that no longer feature any mind games. You both know who the other is, love them for being that way, and can each be yourself comfortably without the unnecessary mind chatter.
the truest and most valuable relationships are formed
The more we rely on others to provide us fulfillment, the more we hold ourselves back from being truly independent, and ultimately the more pressure that the relationship has to operate within. It’s often when relationships are not being looked at to fill a particular void, or to make us feel a certain way, that most of the truest and most valuable relationships are formed. I believe what can be destroyed can be built again, like a phoenix rising from the ashes. If two hearts were broken for if not the same but similar path in life then those two hearts will then fill the space that the other needs to be whole again.
Get out of the COMFORT Zone
This may sound crazy considering the lighthearted list, but I truly believe that the best relationships are ones in which both people recognize and are at peace with the fact that it could change, and possibly even end at any given time. We are not guaranteed this life, we are dying and we can at any time. This understanding, in my opinion and experience, shapes the way for a freedom that ultimately makes a relationship of the deepest variety available. It’s not to say that every relationship must come to an end at some point, but this understanding gives it, and both people involved, the freedom to fully explore whatever it molds itself into.
I'm no love expert and by no means am I saying that I'm right but this is just how I feel and believe, you don't have to agree but maybe I can shine some light on a different perspective. i FEEL THAT THIS doesn't ONLY APPLY TO A LOVE RELATIONSHIP BUT TO ANY RELATIONSHIP FOR THAT MATTER, WHETHER THAT BE A FRIENDSHIP TO MARRIAGE or same sexual orientation to mix ethnicity - love is love. If this made sense to you then share to someone who may relate to this and don't forget to check out MOTIVATION MONDAY'S: I'VE BEEN ON T.V.
Born on September 22nd, 1986 and raised in Sullivan, Missouri